The connections between family, friends, work colleagues, romantic partners and individuals who we encounter in our lives are all governed by different styles of connecting and can have different challenges.
Relationship breakdown, poor relationships and estrangement can be explored in relationship counselling with the aim to achieve stronger connections, or to determine what is appropriate for the relationship going forward. If the relationship is found to be no longer viable, dealing well with its dissolution is a worthwhile goal in therapy, especially when there are others who will be impacted by the dissolution, particularly children and relatives.
Relationship counselling is not necessarily problem focused. Individuals can undertake relationship counselling to advance and optimize their relationship, which may contribute to improved quality of life and sometimes improved general health and mental wellbeing.
The fluctuations of life often challenge us and our relationships. We may have entered into a given relationship with assumptions, dreams and expectations which have not remained constant. As elements of ourselves, our circumstances, and the contract of our relationship change, we may need to re-define and re-negotiate the nature of that relationship.
Counselling can provide an open, safe, objective space for the members of the relationship to analyse the situation, explore the options, set realistic goals, acquire new skills to deal with the situation and to determine the best way forward.
Relationship Therapy Checklist
Relationship Counselling can be helpful in addressing different issues which may include:
- Addressing infidelity or other forms of betrayal
- Being able to communicate your needs and negotiating a sustainable path
- Breaking negative patterns in the relationship, e.g. ‘The Blame Game’
- Challenges in communicating and/or connecting
- Challenges in intimacy
- Challenges posed by parents, extended family and in-laws, including creating healthy boundaries
- Commitment issues
- Conflict around finances
- Control issues
- Developing a deeper understanding of the self to support choosing a future partner well
- Developing ways to deal with resentment, anger and conflict in the relationship
- Feeling able and safe to express opinions and thoughts
- Going forward into a new relationship, identifying elements to avoid and elements which require on-going awareness
- Issues around rejection, alienation and abandonment
- Loss and grief issues
- Navigating a work/family/partner balance
- Navigating cultural differences
- Navigating shared roles
- Pornography and internet challenges to the relationship
- Pressures associated with illness and/or disability
- Recognising and addressing emotional, physical and verbal abuse
- Recognising and understanding the impact of the past, including trauma
- Recognising, understanding and managing family of origin issues as they impact the individual and the relationship
- Reviewing the original attraction and understanding the journey to the present situation
- The changing nature of the relationships
- The loss of the dream, and the need for a new ‘contract’
- Trust issues
- Understanding expectations within the relationship and ascertaining what are realistic goals going forward
- Understanding and learning to manage feeling judged, criticised and overlooked
- Understanding the contribution of each partner to challenges in the relationship
- Variance in outlooks and styles of parenting
- Variance in priorities, goals and styles of behaviour
If you would like to explore the ways in which you might be able to repair or enhance a relationship in your life, please call me on 0438 345 770.